We at Cupid’s Coach are committed to the development of a community which fosters positive, enriching dating experiences, which enables relationships to spark and thrive, and which promotes self-discovery, learning, growth, and FUN all along the way.
There is no shortage of high quality, relationship oriented single people out there in the world. Our aim is to gather love-seeking people together and to give you each a dignified, simple, and effective way to find each other, to study each other carefully and in detail, and to make the right choices for the right reasons. Our mission is to enable you to navigate the ‘romantic marketplace’ with greater ease, more enjoyment, and success, allowing you to achieve your relationship goals.
We think of ourselves not so much as matchmakers, but as “possibilities brokers”. We feel that you are fully capable of making wise and appropriate choices as to whom to select, and for that reason, rather than sending you on blind dates, – we prefer to present you with possible Candidates, and it’s up to each of you to select each other, to contact each other, and to engage in relationship (…or not).
We want each of you to study yourself and each other carefully, always keeping in mind your Critical Criteria, and to make your choices accordingly. It is our hope, our expectation, and our request that you treat each other with kindness and respect, and that you communicate openly and honestly with each other and with us, your matchmakers.
Our dating culture is complex. Romantic interest and attraction are two-way processes. We encourage you, our Clients and Members, to be open-minded and to strive to broaden your interpretation of physical beauty, and for you to islolate for yourself your THREE most important Critical Criteria. It's fine to have a wish list of 10 qualities or attributes that would be nice, but see if you can pick your Top Three, and communicate them to us and to each other through your Personal Resume.
When in doubt as to whether you're attracted, if the person seems to be your 'type' or not, if the Candidate meets your Top Three Critical Criteria, then we suggest that you stretch and say yes. Some of our most successful matches have been surprises to one or the other, and often to us too!
This process is meant to be one of learning, personal growth, and expansion. You'll learn about yourself and about others too. Some lessons are easier than others. To survive and thrive through the process takes patience, persistence, and...a sense of humor! We all need plenty of each.
CUPID'S COACH REQUESTS:
RESPONSES: Please be timely in your responses to others who've selected you. If you've been specifically selected by another of our Clients or Members, then he/she will be waiting for your reponse. What's the appropriate 'time window'? Within a day or two.
GENTLEMEN: Regardless of who initiated the selection, once there's a mutual YES, that's a MATCH here. In 9 out of 10 cases, she'd much prefer to hear from YOU first, so within a day or two, please call her if she's chosen to reveal her phone number to you, and if you only have her email address, then extend a warm Hello and ask her if she'd like to proceed via email of if she'd like for you to call her. And invite her out on Date Number One.
COURTESY: Always return phone calls and emails from Cupid's Coach Clients, Members, and Staff, no matter what, and within a day or two.
HONESTY: Have the courage to speak the truth, be kind and courteous in communicating your message. In your phone conversations, in your emails back and forth, and face to face. There will be times when you really want to pursue a relationship with this new person, in which case, speak the truth, take the risk, and let your intentions be known. And on the other hand, there will be times when you don't think it's a fit and what's best to do is to communicate that you're happy to have connected, but that you don't sense a possibility for a romantic fit, and wish her/him well.
And remember my elderly Southern Belle, Anne's advice to me; "Never turn down a date with anyone...You never know who his friends might be...!"
Julie Ferman
Cupid's Coach
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